But Gigi’s comment on this post started my brain churning about another issue.
Here was Gigi’s comment:
Great post. It’s interesting that mamaondago’s topic was one that got picked multiple times. I love the pictures of your family, BTW.
I don’t judge people with big families – i admire them. however, having worked as a prosecutor in the housing projects in Chicago, where I took abused and neglected kids away from their families, I do have a pretty strong slant on not supporting people having kids who don’t help themselves. I had one mom in my courtroom who just had her 13th (yes, 13th) child taken away from her because she was born drug addicted.
The mom said, “I will just keep having babies until the State lets me keep one.”
I kid you not. That? I’m not all for. 13 kids in foster care from one irresponsible parent. Ugh, I get angry just thinking about it!
Parents like this seriously make me want to drop kick them in the balls. I’ve never cried so much at the news as I do when I hear stories of children who have been abused, neglected or even murdered by their parents. It angers me and it makes me often think.
How do people like this become parents?!
How are there good and wonderfully couples out their who are desperate for children yet, LaTonya can pop out kids like she’s popping pimples?
How can we stop this cycle of bad people getting kids?
How about just some good old fashioned government influence. Why not make a mandatory questionnaire that has to be comepleted before a parent can leave the hospital?
1. What is a child’s purpose in life?
2. It’s past midnight and Baby X is still awake. You’ve tried feeding him, changing him and rocking him. The only other alternative is a dose of Dimetapp. How much should you give?(Clearly this is a trick question because…Benadryle is the proper response…)
3. Who’s more important? Your boyfriend or new baby?
4. True or False: It is ok to leave your baby for a few hours in their crib if you’re feeling stressed?
If the mother mentioned in Gigi’s comment had to take a survey with questions like the above with her first child than she would have probably never made it past the nurses station with a baby in her arms. Let alone 13 kids!
But than this leads me to another thought. Would it be fair to judge a new parent based on their answers when they clearly are new for a reason?
Is good parenting learned or does it come naturally?
This weekend we took Phoenix to the Great Frederick Fair and had the opportunity to see a baby calf being born. We missed the actual extraction from the cow vaj but were able to get close enough to see all the after (and yes this includes cow after birth! Hope you aren’t eating!). I was literally brought to tears as I watched this 2000 pound animal lick her baby until it was completely clean and get pretty fired up when it seemed people were getting too close to the new calf. How is it that this cow knows exactly after 5 minutes what it needs to do to take care of a baby? Really how do any of us know?