Comments on: Protect them all, at all cost.

By: Alexandria

Alexandria — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 20:56:34 +0000

Women who continue to have children for religious purposes (ala the duggars) don’t bother or offend me at all. but if they are having children that they do NOT want to care for i have a big issue with that.

If they struggle financially and have to have government assistance that actually doesn’t bother me much either as long as they are not relying solely on government help.

But its the parents that rely solely on the help of the government and who abuse children
yet continue to have them that bother me. Example would be the mother from the movie “precious”

By: Alexandria

Alexandria — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 20:49:27 +0000

When I say I “child’s purpose” I don’t mean what they want to do in their life. I mean for those parents that do abuse & neglect their children
their answer would be something like “To clean my house. To take care of my kids. To buy me cigarettes”

By: Mad Woman behind the Blog

Mad Woman behind the Blog — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 18:57:31 +0000

I’m putting on armor before I say this:

I’m thinking of my sister. She has 3. None of them were planned. She doesn’t believe in birth control. I regularly ask her about milestones with the youngest and she doesn’t know. Sure she loves her kids and they are cared for but that youngest, she won’t know him. And she won’t know the next one. I know, b/c my mother had 6 children. Few of us speak to each other and 2 feel my mother doesnt know or understand them. They are lost children. And I know that if she had stopped at 3 or 4 kids, they would be retired now.

I’m rambling, but what do we do about the mothers who have children b/c their faith doesn’t allow for birth control?

I realize I’m not giving any answers but I should like to find some!

By: wildflower

wildflower — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 17:51:55 +0000

some hospitals (at least) do have a monitoring system in place for new mothers. My sister was “red flagged” when she gave birth several years ago. They kepy her and her precious baby a couple of extra days because a good samaritan staff member had witnessed or not witnessed (as the case may be in neglect)behavior that concerned them and they rightfully told someone. However, the hospital cannot keep a baby, they cannot remove a child from the custody of the mother. That is the job of children’s services. Children’s services across this nation is completely overwhelmed and over worked so they let my sister keep her baby (after all she wasn’t born drug addicted, she wasn’t hurting the baby) and sent them home. My neice was taken hostage by one of my sister’s “johns”, went three days without formula when my sister sold the formula provided by the goverment and many other horrible things before she was even 9 weeks old. My parents then lied to my sister and told her children’s services was on their way to take the baby, my sister finally used the bus ticket they provided and brought my neice to my parents. They have since adopted her.
My point is this – there is only so much the hospital and goverments can do. It is our responsibility as parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins and citizens to do the RIGHT thing. To intervene, yes the mom might think we are a bitch but if she really does love her children then she will be grateful we were concerned enough to say or do something.
I paid my sister so she would go get “fixed” providing her with drug money wasn’t my goal, preventing her from putting another precious baby through that torture was my goal. I did what it took. We all need to get involved, goverment regulation will only lead to more stupidity. We have to be responsible and use common sense.

By: the wishful lamb

the wishful lamb — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 17:36:06 +0000

Questions before leaving the hospital ummm no first of the the first question you stated has no right or wrong answer. My kids will find their own purpose in life as the grow and learn.

I personally believe that if you get a child taken away and NOT returned the state should make you take parenting classes if you get pregnant agian, if you still can not be a good parent strillization should be forced upon you.

There are already too many unwanted children we do not need these asses having 10 kids that my tax money goes to supporting.