I didn’t make my goal of posting 5 days a week, but I figured 4 is better than nothing. Baby steps, baby steps.
This morning I was browsing Facebook & came across an article from The Stir about a mom keeping her sons hair long. I immediately clicked over, because I have a son with long hair & Caspian pretty much seems like he’ll follow along the same hairy path. The article was about an issue that no matter how I try I just can’t seem to understand.
I’ve mentioned before that I tend to lean a little to the right on some issues & I am more conservative than some other bloggers I read. I also have mentioned how I wish the issue of gender stereotyping with children would die, but since it hasn’t I reserve the right to talk about it again & this time I asking for those of you who feel strongly about it to help me understand.
I enjoy being a woman very much. I am happy with the traditional roles that my husband & I play in our home. I’m not interested in chasing out lizards, dumping the garbage or hunting down the mysterious smells coming from under the sink. I don’t mind the laundry-well I do mind it, but there are a lot of things I’d mind more. I enjoy making him dinner & serving him when he’s home. Even though I prefer playing the role of a 1950′s housewife I am no Michelle Duggar. He is not my king, lord, nor my master. I am his equal & his partner. I get my way, he gets his, I get mine twice, he gets his a half. There is no “Well he said it, so it is so” in my home so please understand that.
I wouldn’t necessarily consider myself a feminist. And so maybe that is why when the issues come up about not raising our children within the confines of gender I tend to be a little confused. When I hear things about not wanting your daughters to be princesses I scratch my head. I don’t understand why we are putting so much insistence that men & woman are the same, because in case you haven’t looked down below lately we aren’t. We move differently, we speak differently, we act differently. Women push babies out, men push sperm. Women can bring peace to a situation with one assuring glance while a man can bring confusion. Men are stronger than most women. Women are stronger than most men.
Why are we putting so much focus on trying to be like men, when we can put focus on being the women we were created to be. When did it become a shameful thing for a little girl to want to put on a pink dress or a little boy to want to play with a truck and not a stupid baby doll?
I understand the idea behind all of us being equal because we are. We should have equal pay, equal rights, and be respected equally. But I just feel that to continue to say we are the same is ridiculous. We really aren’t the same in various ways. Woman we’re given such special gifts, things that only we can do, feel & understand. I don’t want to be able to do every single thing my husband can, I don’t think I’d be as good as he is. I want to be the best I can at what I was designed to be. He can never be me, I can never be him. Our strengths & our weaknesses are different.
Those of you that believe in living outside of the “gender box” do you ever wonder what kind of message it sends to your children? I am asking honestly here. Do you ever feel like if your daughter hears you ranting & raving over these issues do you ever feel she may start resenting being a woman & instead desiring to be men since make them out to be so damn cool?